Acredolo, Linda & Susan Godwyn
Contemporary Books, 1996
Provides a beautifully simple and fun way to enhance communication with a preverbal child. The easy-to-use signs give you a window into your child’s world and help toddlers communicate needs and reduce frustration.
DR. ANAND’S GUIDE TO CHILDCARE
Vakils, Feffer, and Simons PVT. Ltd., 2001
Combining traditional Indian parenting with research-based information, Dr. RK Anand’s Guide to Childcare provides clear, concise answers to questions concerning breastfeeding as well as general childcare. Written with the Indian mother as the target audience, this book provides a cross-cultural perspective to raising children. The author’s religious beliefs are reflected throughout the book.
Banno, Melissa & Ann Willms
A collection of poems, This Moment embraces mothering in a soft, gentle way. The collection demonstrates the authors’ reverence for the simple moments with children, and their appreciation of the experience of motherhood in a refreshing and inspiring way.
Barnes, Bridget and Steven York
COMMON SENSE PARENTING OF TODDLERS AND PRESCHOOLERS
Boys Town, 2001
Practical, clear, balanced approach to parenting young children. It stresses teaching in place of punishment and helps the parent set reasonable expectations based on a child’s age and developmental level. Includes one regrettable reference that identifies baby recognizing the bottle as a developmental milestone. (Reviewed in New Beginnings, March-April 2003.)
DIAPER-FREE: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene
Natural Wisdom Press, 2001
In many cultures around the world, babies are raised without diapers. Mothers observe by small signals and cues when their babies are ready to eliminate, just as they tell by cues that babies are ready to nurse. Bauer, a Canadian mother, describes how to care for a baby without using diapers and offers many suggestions from other parents about common concerns and challenges. LLLI does not recommend any specific diapering method.
Berman, Raeann and Bernard Shulman
HOW TO SURVIVE YOUR AGING PARENTS…So You and They Can Enjoy Life
Surrey, 2nd ed., 2001
A guide to the issues that arise as we care for our aging parents. The focus is on the emotional and practical needs of elderly parents and adult children, with comparisons to other stages of parenting. It stresses the importance of effective communication skills and understanding the development stages of aging.
This book discusses how wearing babies in baby carriers helps them to nurse better, sleep more soundly, and experience contented moments of quiet alertness when awake. Babywearing provides important information about the many different types of baby carriers available.
FATHERWISE: 101 Tips for a New Father
In the tradition of MOTHERWISE, this book by the same author offers practical, nurturing wisdom for new fathers. Written in an easy to read format, tips from new and experienced fathers are compiled to encourage a strong bond between father and child.
MOTHERWISE: 101 Tips for a New Mother
This concise book offers practical, nurturing wisdom in a format that is easily accessible to busy new mothers. It presents the principles of LLLI philosophy in succinct, concrete tips that affirm the value of motherhood, breastfeeding, and sensitivity to baby’s needs. Written by an LLL Leader, this book captures the conversational mother-to-mother support offered in a Group meeting, and reassures mothers that they know what is best for their babies. Available in English, German, and Spanish.
BUILDING MORAL INTELLIGENCE
A clear, thoughtful discussion of the importance of helping children develop specific moral values. The author includes helpful evaluation tools, developmental stages, list of resources, and exercises that families can do together to promote development of empathy, conscience, self-control, respect, kindness, tolerance, and fairness.
NOBODY LIKES ME, EVERYBODY HATES ME
A useful handbook which looks at twenty-five different friendship problems and offers suggestions for both parent and child on how to deal with these issues. This book acknowledges the importance of friends in our children’s lives and gives ideas that promote empathy, independence and self-esteem.
PARENTS DO MAKE A DIFFERENCE
Jossey Bass, 1999
A common sense guide to helping raise children with “solid character, strong minds, and caring hearts.” The author identifies eight skills considered critical to success: positive self-esteem, cultivating strengths, communicating, problem solving, getting along, goal setting, not giving up, and caring. Checklists help parents identify where their child may be having trouble. Resources, including books, videos and Web sites, are provided to help parents reinforce each success skill. Directed towards parents of children 3-12.
Mothers at Home, 1992
This collection of stories, poems, and anecdotes celebrates women who view staying home with their children as a positive experience rather than a burden. LLL does not agree with some of the suggestions and resources concerning nighttime parenting. (Reviewed in New Beginnings, July-Aug 1993.)
MONTESSORI PLAY AND LEARN
This presentation of the Montessori method of teaching helps parents teach their children the basics and also recognize their child’s unique personality, while helping the child to develop intellectually, psychologically, and emotionally.
LIVING WITH THE ACTIVE ALERT CHILD
Parenting Press, rev. ed., 2003
Do these traits describe your child — active alert, bright, controlling, fearful, intense, attention getting, trouble getting along with others, fluctuating self-esteem, performers, empathetic ability? Budd profiles children with these eleven traits and offers new insights into family interactions. Her strategies encourage parents to provide the warmth and structure that active alert children need. This book is appropriate for parents whose children are over the age of two, and the new expanded 3rd edition now includes chapters related to teenagers and active alerts as adults. This book is a fabulous resource for parents. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 2005.)
Bumgarner, Norma Jane
MOTHERING YOUR NURSING TODDLER
LLLI, rev. ed., 1999
Practical, reassuring, informative, and supportive book for the mother of a nursing toddler. Emphasizes meeting child’s needs. Discusses importance of breastfeeding relationship, natural weaning, temporary changes in lifestyle, society’s expectations vs. child’s and family’s needs. Written by an LLL Leader. (Revised edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, July-Aug 2001.)
Available in English, French, and German.
COMMON SENSE PARENTING
Boys Town Press, 1996
A simple, practical guide for effective discipline. Clearly outlines the differences between punishment and teaching, positive and negative consequences, expectations, praise, and more. More specific and step-by-step guidelines than other more theoretical discipline books. The chart on positive consequences that cost no money and the entire chapter “Staying Calm” are especially helpful. For children 3-16.
HOW TO REALLY LOVE YOUR CHILD
Cariot Victor, rev. ed. 1992
Focuses on the importance of showing our children that we really love them. Good discussion of discipline and the child’s acceptance of it. However, LLL disagrees with spanking even as a last resort. Author states strong personal religious convictions. Readers will find many positive reinforcements of LLL principles throughout the book. Second edition includes a new chapter, “A Child’s Anger,” which explores passive-aggressive behavior. (First edition reviewed in LEAVEN Nov-Dec 1978)
HOW TO REALLY LOVE YOUR TEENAGER
Victor, rev. ed. 1993
Helps parents learn to give unconditional love to teens through eye contact, physical contact, and focused attention. Emphasizes that parents are responsible to meet the emotional needs of their teens and to provide them with authority and direction. Covers dealing with depression and handling teenage anger. Author’s personal religious beliefs play a prominent role in this book. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, January 1984.)
Carpenter, Diana & Annette Leibovitz
OUR CAMP OUR CHILDREN: A Complete Guide to Starting Your Own Home-Based Cooperative Family Day Camp
Privately published, 2002
A detailed book that provides information on how parents can organize and run a successful home-based day camp. While addressing topics such as food, tips for taking field trips, effective games to play, and safety issues, this book is made complete with guidelines for the different aspects of handling money and creating camp schedules. Helpful lists of stores, books, and Web sites are also included.
Chapman, Gary & Ross Campbell
THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES OF CHILDREN
This book offers a unique approach to loving our children. Discover the way your child prefers to receive love—physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, or acts of service. The authors also include a practical Action Plan. The authors’ religious views are reflected in portions of the text. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, May-June 2000.)
This charming, mother-friendly book blends humor and practical techniques to demonstrate how to navigate the chaos of daily life. Easy-to-read, this book offers personal anecdotes, step-by-step guides, brief chapter summaries, and fun ways to combat clutter and disorder in your home and life. Ideas, such as making weekly plans and using “baby steps,” are easy to implement, will limit stress levels, and teach you how to FLY: “Finally Love Yourself.”
Clarke, Jean Illsley
TIME-IN: When Time-Out Doesn’t Work
Parenting Press, 1999
In this small book, Clarke offers four tools—Ask, Act, Attend, Amend—that work together like puzzle pieces to help parents teach children (toddler to teens) to think through their behavior. Clarke’s matter-of-fact approach stresses the competence of both adults and children and reinforces their connectedness.
PLAYFUL PARENTING: A Bold New Way to Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems and Encourage Children’s Confidence
How many times have you heard (or uttered) the phrase “They’re just playing”? According to Dr. Cohen, there’s no “just” about it. He asserts that play is a child’s medium for nonverbal communication. Instead of dismissing children’s play, he suggests that parents should join their children on the floor and help them explore the feelings of isolation and powerlessness that seem to be at the heart of much play. Cohen offers practical tools to incorporate play in your parenting style: follow their lead, help them try out new roles, empower girls and connect with boys, channel games that children love and parents “hate,” and how to overcome parental awkwardness at play. His chapters on discipline and sibling rivalry offer a fresh look at age-old topics. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, Aug-Sept 2002; Featured in NEW BEGINNINGS Nov-Dec 2002.)
MOTHER-BABY EXPERIENCES OF NURTURING
This brief booklet is packed with valuable information focusing on the early hours and days after birth. The author introduces the reader to the concept of “Biological Nurturing,” a natural, instinctual way of relating to your newborn through breastfeeding, skin-to-skin contact, and constant cuddling. This is a beautiful booklet for every new or expectant mother.
HELP! THE KIDS ARE AT IT AGAIN
Parenting Press, 1997
In this simple and well-focused book, Crary looks at sibling conflicts as a function of developmental stages and learned “people skills” rather than jealousy. Filled with realistic examples from every-day life. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1999.)
LOVE AND LIMITS: Guidance Tools for Creative Parenting
Parenting Press, 1994
Quick and easy guide to the principles of loving guidance. This books helps parents “look for good behavior, acknowledge feelings, set limits, teach new skills, and avoid problems.”
MAGIC TOOLS FOR RAISING KIDS
Parenting Press, 1995
Lively, illustrated, parent-friendly guide to problem solving with children. Gives many examples of common problems and a variety of developmentally-appropriate solutions.
365 WACKY, WONDERFUL WAYS TO GET YOUR CHILDREN TO DO WHAT YOU WANT
Parenting Press, 1995
Straightforward suggestions and lively cartoons make this book an excellent choice for parents looking for a variety of positive alternatives to dealing with common developmental problems from throwing food to grocery store tantrums.
WITHOUT SPANKING OR SPOILING
Parenting Press, 2nd ed. 1993
Combines techniques of several child care methods. Discusses what parents can expect from a child at various ages; gives wide range of developmental and temperamental characteristics. Valuable aid to parents who do not believe in spanking or permissiveness and are looking for ways to practice loving guidance without physical punishment.
THE COMPLETE TIGHTWAD GAZETTE
It’s not just about saving money! Dacyczyn promotes “thrift as a viable alternative lifestyle.” Goals such as debt reduction, home ownership, and prospering on one salary–not to mention attaining a less materialistic attitude–may be achieved by adopting some of the attitudes and practices creatively presented in this book based on a very successful homespun newsletter. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2002; Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS Sept-Oct 2003.).
Davidson, Alan and Robert
HOW GOOD PARENTS RAISE GREAT KIDS: The Six Essential Habits of Highly Successful Parents
A new twist in publications on child rearing—in this book, parents are the experts! The results of interviews with dozens of parents of well-adjusted children are presented in an orderly, easy-to-read format. Readers may be uncomfortable with a section where some parents advocate physical discipline under certain circumstances where safety is at issue.
BUSY BUT BALANCED: Practical and Inspirational Ways to Create a Calmer, Closer Family
St. Martin’s Griffin, 2001
Busy But Balanced offers practical, real-life advice for parents, who, understanding the importance of creating a nourishing home and deeply connecting with their children, want to do so while still embracing life to the fullest. Divided into four parts, which correspond with the seasons, and into sections for each month of the year, this book offers itself as a “year-long balance guide” designed to help parents “seize the day, calmly.” It stresses the importance of putting people and not things first. While the book remains mostly practical in nature, it does contain advice for spiritual development and includes non-denominational references to God.
TAKE BACK YOUR KIDS
Doherty believes that many parents today see their role as providers of services and opportunities for children. Instead, he urges us to occasionally say no to our children’s wants and arrange for more meaningful family time together at meals, religious services, and volunteer activities. His short, highly readable approach includes how to monitor media distractions, counter the “me-first” consumer culture, and contends that nurturing a marriage and caring for children are not mutually exclusive activities.
PEACEFUL PARENTS, PEACEFUL KIDS
Kensington Books, 2000
A wonderfully comprehensive book, Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids, approaches the concept of loving guidance from the standpoint of active listening and conflict resolution. General principles for peaceful living are detailed, as well as a day-by-day plan of action for achieving a more peaceful family in fourteen days.
Dyer, Traci, ed.
Rose Communications, 1999
Over 100 mothers from around the world share their thoughts on the realities of motherhood-both the pleasures and the frustrations. Intimate, thought-provoking, and frank sharing make this a unique collection.
Elias, Maurice et al.
EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PARENTING
Three Rivers Press, 2000
Focuses on recognizing and understanding feelings and treating children with respect. Offers many practical ways to encourage children in the middle years to problem-solve situations for themselves in a positive way. Filled with real-life examples and sample dialogue, this book is crammed with step by step plans. Good chapter on the importance of humor.
WHAT’S GOING ON IN THERE?
A scientifically-based book for parents about how brain development and what can be done to optimize healthy brain growth. Beginning with prenatal influences and continuing through the preschool years, the most significant developmental years, the author explains what is happening, why it’s important to our species, and what parents can do to assure the best for their baby. Eliot discusses the senses, motor skills, emotions, memory, self-control, language, attention and intelligence, as well as how breastmilk and other nutritional factors can improve a child’s mental functioning.
Elium, Jean and Don Elium
RAISING A DAUGHTER: Parents and the Awakening of a Healthy Woman
Celestial Arts, 2003
Raising a Daughter is a comprehensive guide for the parents of girls. The authors discuss nurturing confident, independent daughters in a media-driven culture of mixed messages and conflicting values. This book guides parents through each stage of a girl’s development, offering a supportive view of what it means to have a daughter.
Elium, Jean and Don Elium
RAISING A SON: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man
Celestial Arts, 2003
Many parents today are confused over how to raise a son. This book provides readers with an understanding of a boy’s psychological development from birth through manhood. With these tools, parents are able to make informed decisions about the care of their boys and what they can do to raise compassionate men.
Ellison, Sheila and Barbara Barnett
365 WAYS TO RAISE GREAT KIDS
A compendium of step by step instructions for family-centered activities together. Each activity is applicable to any age and activity level which makes this book unusually versatile. If you are looking for some great character-building activitie, this is the book for you.
THE PROCRASTINATING CHILD: A Handbook for Adults to Help Children Stop Putting Things Off
A procrastinating child can drive a parent to distraction. This distraction is nothing compared to the effects that procrastination has on a child’s self-confidence. In this book, the author provides a lighthearted approach to strategies and guidelines that will encourage both young children and teenagers to face obligations in a timely manner, whether the task at hand involves reaching personal goals, doing homework, or accomplishing chores. (Reviewed NEW BEGINNINGS, November-December 2005.)
Engelhardt, Anne & Cheryl Sullivan
A resource for parents and educators. Focuses on setting up a nurturing, exciting learning environment for children at home. Provides tips on fun and educational games, activities, and crafts which can easily be done by one child or a group. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS Sept-Oct 1986.)
Faber, Adele & Elaine Mazlish
HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN & LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK
Avon, rev. ed., 1999
Communication skills for parents based on the work of the late Dr. Haim Ginott which stresses listening to your child, dealing with feelings, finding alternatives to punishment, and developing self-esteem. Includes many examples of helpful dialogues and cartoons to brighten your day. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jul-Aug 2005.)
Faber, Adele & Elaine Mazlish
SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY
Avon, 2nd edition, 1998
Vivid dialogue and cartoons show how children can express their feelings without doing damage, how parents can be helpful to both “bully” and “victim,” how to reduce rage between battling siblings, and how to motivate children to work out their own solutions to problems. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1999.)
DIAPER CHANGES THE COMPLETE DIAPERING BOOK AND RESOURCE GUIDE
Homekeepers, rev. ed. 1998
Diaper Changes provides a wealth of information on cloth diapering and the choices surrounding diapering today. There is a chapter on making your own supplies and an excellent company resource guide. While the author strongly favors cloth diapers, she writes in an open, honest manner which leaves the reader free to make the choices that work for her family. La Leche League does not recommend any specific diapering method.
PARENTING, A SACRED TASK
Hohm Press, 2003
A thoughtful book on the spiritual journey of parenting, Parenting, A Sacred Task, is a meaningful discussion of being attentive to your child’s wants and needs and the importance of raising children with flexibility and an open mind. Fedorshak addresses breastfeeding, nutrition, loving guidance, and closeness of mother and baby as important aspects of conscious parenting.
Lowell house, 2000
While there are many books in print about sleep, few acknowledge the sleep patterns of breastfed infants or reflect LLL philosophy about the importance of responding to a baby’s needs. Sweet Dreams supports the breastfeeding relationship while offering practical, specific information to parents. It fosters an understanding of the child’s capabilities at different stages, through adolescence, as they relate to sleep. Many sections in the book include references to current research so parents can decide for themselves whether the evidence is relevant to their parenting experience. The book also reflects the author’s personal opinions on a variety of parenting topics, including his strong opposition to circumcision. (Featured in NEW BEGINNINGS Jan-Feb 2003.)
ADVENTURES IN GENTLE DISCIPLINE: A Parent-to-Parent Guide
This insightful book debunks myths about the effectiveness of gentle discipline methods and encourages parents to find ways to make gentle discipline work for themselves and their children. Personal stories from a variety of mothers show creative adaptations of gentle discipline methods and provide parents with tools and encouragement to put theory into practice to be real parents, not perfect parents.
THE STAY-AT-HOME MOM’S GUIDE TO MAKING MONEY FROM HOME
2nd ed., 2000
Increase your family’s income while taking care of your children! This book will help you find a business you love, plan and budget your time, manage yourself, your business and your family, and answer many more common questions about working from home. Learn how to avoid get-rich scams and costly mistakes, while tapping into the Internet and local resources for a wealth of information to help you get started. You’ll also find tips and advice from over 30 mothers who have started their own successful businesses while staying home with their children.
WONDERFUL WAYS TO BE A FAMILY
Conari Press, 1998
Easy to pick up and read, this little book encourages everyone in the family to lighten up, have fun, and enjoy each other.
WONDERFUL WAYS TO LOVE A CHILD
This collection of brief, warm essays supports loving guidance and offers down-to-earth ideas for expressing love for your child as a part of everyday life.
This book reveals startling evidence about the critical importance of a parent’s presence in a child’s early years. Dr. Fox points out the risks involved in substitute care and ways to provide the necessary consistency when a substitute caregiver must be used.
GROWING UP: Attachment Parenting from Kindergarten to College
Sun Publishers 2003
Fox takes us through the developmental stages—physical, social and emotional—of the child aged 5 through 21. She believes that by understanding what is normal, parents are better equipped to deal with the many changes that occur throughout these turbulent years, and should be able to respond with empathy, respect and sensitivity. Throughout Fox stresses the importance of “being there,” both emotionally and physically, and of creating a supportive and loving family environment. A section on Special Situations discusses Attachment Parenting in relation to the mother returning to work, divorce and stepfamilies, adoption and death.
This book about fathering from the heart tells how to strengthen the connections between father and child even when travel, long work hours, or divorce make this difficult. Strong quotes from more than 100 fathers convey the message that fatherhood is one of the most difficult and rewarding challenges a man can face.
200 WAYS TO RAISE A BOY’S EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
This companion volume to 200 Ways to Raise a Girl’s Self-Esteem combines easy-to-read theory and easy-to-apply practical tips. Rich in ways to nurture an open, deep, warm bond with boys and young men, this book stresses positive discipline and communication skills for parents, teachers, mentors, and friends. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2002.).
200 WAYS TO RAISE A GIRL’S SELF-ESTEEM
This book gives practical suggestions from a father’s perspective for both parents and teachers in the all-important responsibility of building self-esteem. Girls especially need a strong self-image to get them through their early and mid-teen years. Glennon provides just the right balance of theory (some) and ideas you can use (many). Despite the focus on women’s issues, most of the ideas apply to sons as well. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2002.).
STOP TREATING ME LIKE A KID: Everyday Parenting for the 10- to 13-year-old
Viking Penguin, 1994
A common-sense approach to handling the upheavals of the pre-teen years. Offers parents help on topics such as communication, respect, negativity, single parenting, peer pressure, and more. Brief, concise, easy-to-read chapters make this an excellent guide for parents who want specific advice as well as those who are looking for more general suggestions.
Gordon, Jay & Maria Goodavage
GOOD NIGHTS: The Happy Parent’s Guide to the Family Bed (and a Peaceful Night’s Sleep)
St. Martin’s Griffin, 2002
Putting many concerns and rumors that often surround the family bed to rest, the authors use a fun, easy-to-understand approach to explain safety, coping with criticism, and how to keep the spark alive in a marriage while cosleeping. This book provides a breastfeeding-friendly, comprehensive look at the scientific research that surrounds cosleeping, including the possible protection from SIDS; and the benefits that many parents may not be away of, such as the fact that cosleepers are usually more independent than their cribbed peers. And when the time is right for your child to leave your bed, Good Nights helps you to help your child move on. (Featured in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 2003; Reviewed in LEAVEN Aug-Sept 2003.)
LISTENING TO YOUR BABY
Parenting advice is available nearly everywhere, but the best source of information, according to Dr. Jay Gordon, is a baby. An experienced pediatrician and board-certified lactation consultant, Gordon offers common-sense advice while reminding parents that their babies and their own instincts will give them the most reliable guidance. An easy book to read, especially helpful for expectant and new parents. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS July-Aug 2003).
Pocket Books, 1999
A practical guide for parents who want to be responsive and respectful of their baby’s needs. The author strongly advocates attachment parenting, an approach which includes minimizing baby-parent separation, co-sleeping, exclusive breastfeeding, and avoiding an over-reliance on baby “gadgets.” Includes extensive resource lists as well as stories from parents and information from experts including LLLI, William Sears, Rachael Hamlet, and Jack Newman. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, July-Aug, 2000.)
THE HOMESCHOOL HANDBOOK
Prima, 2nd rev. ed., 1999
A thorough, well-written guide which provides information on the effectiveness of homeschooling, legal issues, theories of learning and practical applications. Readers are given assistance in dealing with state regulations, skeptical friends and relatives, sibling wars, isolation, and avoiding burnout. An excellent resource for anyone considering homeschooling. Griffith believes in family first and stresses the importance of recognizing individual strengths and needs. (First edition reviewed in LEAVEN, Oct-Nov 1998.)
LET THE BABY DRIVE
St. Martin’s Press, 2004
This memoir of TV personality Lu Hannesian’s early years with her first child is marked by empathy for children’s needs and her ability to look honestly at the needs and motivations of parents. It is a thoughtful story of Hanessian trusting her instincts as a mother amid the chorus of voices advising her on what is best for her son. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2004.)
Hanson, Rick, Jan Hanson, Ricki Pollycove
This book comprehensively covers the physical and emotional stressors on contemporary mothers and offers ways they can care for themselves and nurture their relationships. Special emphasis is given on ways to improve the interactions and relationships between mother and father. (Reviewed in LEAVEN Feb-Mar 2004.)
FATHERING RIGHT FROM THE START: Straight Talk about Pregnancy, Birth and Beyond
New World Library, 2001
A must-read for any father-to-be! Heinowitz offers loving and down-to-earth ideas for fathers on how to communicate with your partner and how to understand and express your fears. From the prenatal period to adolescence, topics covered include sex after baby, bonding with a breastfed baby, setting priorities, and time management. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, March-April 2002.)
HIRKANI’S DAUGHTERS: Women Who Scale Modern Mountains to Combine Breastfeeding and Working
La Leche League International, 2005
The title of this book was inspired by an ancient Indian tale about a young mother, Hirkani, who scaled down a 1,000-foot vertical cliff in order to get to her baby to breastfeed. A compilation of inspirational stories f rom women around the world, Hirkani’s Daughters tells the stories of modern employed mothers who have overcome various obstacles to continue breastfeeding.
THE BABY BOND: How to Raise an Emotionally Healthy Child
In an engaging and easy-to-read discussion of the importance of bonding and attachment, Hine emphasizes the crucial role support plays in the development of a healthy family, along with the “species-specific” needs of the baby. The appendix lists a variety of helpful resources for families, including associations, support groups and suggested reading. Very supportive of breastfeeding, although the author overgeneralizes from her personal experience.
THE NATURAL CHILD: PARENTING FROM THE HEART
New Society Publishers, 2001
This collection of essays explores issues related to attachment parenting-such as the importance of natural childbirth, extended breastfeeding, and loving guidance-from infancy onward. The author, a parenting counselor, bases her writing on the belief that “children who have the most loving care in infancy become the most secure and loving adults.” Topics addressed include living with a crying baby, parenting with empathy and trust, and guiding and helping children to learn. The author’s views on homeschooling and child-spacing go beyond LLL philosophy. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, Aug-Sept 2003; Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS Mar-Apr 2004.)
IN THE COMPANY OF WOMEN
Author and psychologist Hunter provides insight into the importance of female relationship, from the bonds between mother and daughter to friendship and mentoring. The author’s Christian beliefs are reflected in some parts of the text.
THE POWER OF MOTHER LOVE
WaterBrook Press, 1999
From her double perspective as mother and psychotherapist, Hunter describes the incredible force that is unleashed when a mother surrenders her heart to her children. This well-researched book eloquently conveys the importance of mother love for both mother and child. LLL does not agree that nighttime feedings should end by the middle of the first year or that spanking is an effective discipline tool. The author’s strong Christian faith is reflected throughout the text. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, Feb-March 1999.)
Hyland, Terry and Jerry Davis
ANGRY KIDS, FRUSTRATED PARENTS
Boystown Press, 1999
Aggression in children is a concern for many parents. This book describes techniques developed over 80 years of work at Boystown, a facility for the treatment and care of abused, abandoned, and neglected girls and boys. This easy-to-read book outlines a respectful, concise approach to disciplining aggressive children without physical punishment. Five levels of aggressive behavior are described, as well as ways to stop negative behavior. Discipline techniques are explained plainly, with concrete examples. The religious values of Boystown are reflected in one chapter of the book.
LETTING GO AS CHILDREN GROW
A thorough exploration of loving guidance from infancy to young adulthood, this book makes an impassioned plea for parents to step back and let their children get on with growing. As well as drawing on the writings of progressive educationalists psychologists and others, the book considers the emotions and motivations of both children and parents. Extolling the virtues of “wholesome neglect” and treating breastfeeding as the norm, Deborah Jackson shows us how ordinary parents can raise extraordinary children.
THREE IN A BED
Bloomsbury, rev. ed., 1999
Where should baby sleep? According to Jackson, the answer is up to you. But if you choose to have baby in bed with you, she offers lots of support. This is a passionate exploration of the advantages of bedsharing, supported by medical, anthropological, psychological and historical evidence.
DANCE WITH ME
Whether seen as a delightful children’s book or as a sentimental book for parents who practice babywearing, Dance With Me is a lovely collection of photographs of babies in slings and carriers doing everything with their parents from sleeping and nursing to swimming. A heartwarming book about this very brief time in a child’s life.
PARENTS ARE TEACHERS, TOO: Enriching Your Child’s First Six Years
Includes hundreds of specific ideas and problem-solving techniques that can be used to encourage your children to achieve their full potential by turning everyday events into spontaneous learning experiences.
CRYING BABY, SLEEPLESS NIGHTS: Why Your Baby is Crying and What You Can Do About It
Harvard Common Press, rev. ed. 1992
For the frustrated parents of crying babies. Written in a warm, loving tone. Includes a foreword by Marian Tompson. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Mar-Apr 1993.)
Kabat-Zinn, Myla and Jon
EVERYDAY BLESSINGS: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting
Written by the parents of three grown children, this book focuses on the thoughts and feelings, rather than the techniques, associated with parenting children of all ages. The authors draw upon their knowledge of the Zen-Buddist concept of mindfulness to give readers a new understanding of how to be present to their children. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2001.)
PARENTING FROM YOUR HEART
Puddle Dancer Press, 2003
For those who live their parenting responsibilities as a call for inner growth and social transformation, this booklet offers a unique perspective based upon the renowned book by Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication. Parenting From Your Heart emphasizes connecting with your child, attending to his or her needs, and looking for the needs behind challenging behaviors.
THE HIDDEN FEELINGS OF MOTHERHOOD
Pharmasoft, rev. ed., 2005
An overview of the deep, hidden issues of motherhood: stress, depression, and burn-out. Kendall-Tackett addresses a wide range of situations, including household management, work-family balance, parenting disabled children, and coping with the death of a child. Each section includes extensive resources. Throughout, the author emphasizes that mothering can be very challenging at times while offering practical suggestions, gentle empathy, and steadfast hope that even the greatest challenges can be faced. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, Dec 02-Jan 2003.)
THE WELL ORDERED HOME
New Harbinger Publications 2003
Written in short, easy to read chapters, this book adopts the thinking woman’s approach to housework. Readers are encouraged to find organizational methods that work for them through four basic principles: starting where you are now, having what you need, using active storage, and getting rid of clutter. Packed with practical tips on everything from organizing your kitchen to coping with the holidays, this book gives a realistic and motivating approach to home management.
MITTEN STRINGS FOR GOD
A beautifully crafted collection or “Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry.” In a series of short chapters, Kenison meditates on living a simpler life and explores mothering as a vocation and spiritual journey.
Kirschner, Jan and Tracy
THE LITTLE GOO-ROO
Atlas Press, 1998
A unique book, part baby journal and part philosophy lesson. Each page offers a simple lesson taught by the parents’ best and wisest teacher, their own baby, and a space for the parents to write in their thoughts. Best suited as a journal or gift book rather than a Group Library book.
Kirshenbaum, Mira & Charles Foster
“Is this really my child?” How can we continue with the parenting style we know feels right when teens are so different from their younger selves? Describes “the relationship approach”–loving guidance–for the teenage years. The authors tell how to break down the barriers to parent and teen communication.
Klaus, Marshall & Phyllis
YOUR AMAZING NEWBORN
The authors present new research on mother-infant bonding and infant behavior and development in a coherent and beautifully illustrated volume. The 7-page spread of a newborn infant making his own way to the breast just minutes after birth is stunning. Readers will discover a new appreciation for a newborn’s awareness and abilities.
PARENTING FOR A HEALTHY FUTURE
Hawthorn Press, 1995
Discusses approaches to parenting, emphasizing the importance of guiding children in their development with respect for their feelings and capabilities. Advocates discipline rather than punishment and discusses the difference. Moves from the philosophical to the practical, addressing mealtimes, bedtimes, etc.
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy
KIDS, PARENTS AND POWER STRUGGLES
Emotions and needs are at the heart of the power struggles between parents and children. Kurcinka reveals these struggles as opportunities to connect with our children. She urges us to become emotional coaches for our children, and helps parents to understand the role of temperament and emotions. She also addresses hidden medical problems. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 2002.)
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy
RAISING YOUR SPIRITED CHILD
Harper Perennial, 1998
Often known as “difficult” or “high need,” spirited children need parents who are enthusiastic, skillful, and sensitive to their children. This book is a guide for parents who need emotional support and new strategies to use with their spirited child. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Nov-Dec 1993.)
Kurcinka, Mary Sheedy
RAISING YOUR SPIRITED CHILD WORKBOOK
Harper Perennial, 1998
The perfect companion to Sheedy’s first book, Raising Your Spirited Child! This volume includes activities to help you better understand and guide your spirited or high-need child. The author’s positive outlook and unique perspective are wonderful tools to help parents become loving advocates for children who just need more. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, May-June 1999.)
REDIRECTING CHILDREN’S BEHAVIOR
Parenting Press, 3rd ed. 1998
A concise how-to guide for parents looking for concrete ways of implementing loving guidance in their parenting philosophy. Without offering easy answers, Kvols offers insights and tips on how parents can foster inner motivation in their children. She also helps parents develop strategies for working through challenging behaviors while respecting the child’s capability. A useful appendix defines common behaviors according to developmental stages.
FUNDAMENTALS OF HOMESCHOOLING
Nettlepatch Press, 2002
Lahrson-Fisher describes how all families, homeschooling or not, can live a “satisfying learning lifestyle.” Her numerous suggestions for capitalizing on a child’s natural ability to learn through play and daily interactions are relevant to any parent seeking to enhance their child’s education. From preschool to teenage years, see how family living can be successfully combined with learning at home.
LEARNING AT HOME: A Mother’s Guide to Homeschooling
Sea Change, rev. ed., 2000
An easy-to-read guide written by a homeschooling mother of four and former LLL Leader. The author emphasizes the importance of focusing on each child’s needs rather than sticking to a strict curriculum and timetable.
Lewis, Thomas, Fari Amini, Richard Lannon
A GENERAL THEORY OF LOVE
Random House, 2000
A serious discussion of the importance of attachment to brain development which underscores the value of early nurturance. Three psychiatrists describe what new scientific research has to say about human love. Our brains link us to others, and these relationships help determine our moods, maintain our health and actually change our brain structure. Topics include how relationships function, where love goes wrong, how parents shape a child’s developing self, what promotes and discourages violence in children, and how our modern societal expectations are often at odds with our needs.
THE CONTINUUM CONCEPT
The author lived with the Yequana Indians of South America and observed the effortless upbringing of their children. Yequana babies are literally kept in arms day and night until they begin to creep. LLL does not endorse the author’s proposals for providing adults with experiences to compensate for a lack of in-arms experience as babies. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, Mar-Apr 1978.)
ON THE GO WITH BABY
Parents of babies and young children may feel they have to choose between leaving their baby in someone else’s care or never traveling when their children are young. Lutz challenges this assumption and encourages parents to bring their children along when they travel. She provides thoughtful and practical suggestions, so that each family can figure out how to make traveling with children work for everyone.
WE SHOULD DO THIS MORE OFTEN
Daan Graphics, 1987
A cartoon book from an LLL Leader that includes more than 120 cartoons reflecting humorous aspects of family life.
McClure, Vimala Schneider
Bantam, 3rd ed., 2000
Practical advice accompanied by photographs demonstrating proper massage techniques for baby. Emphasis is on skin to skin contact, touching and infant-parent communication. The techniques can also be used on older children. (First edition reviewed in LEAVEN, Nov-Dec 1982.)
THE TAO OF MOTHERHOOD
New World, 1997
Written in a succinct and poetic way, this book offers short meditations on the inner work of parenting, and invites the reader to contemplate the higher purpose of mothering and reflect on loving guidance. The author’s spiritual beliefs are reflected throughout the text.
ENJOY SUCCESSFUL PARENTING: Strategies You Can Use Today!
Summit Crossroads, 2nd ed. 1997
Written for parents of children ages 2-10, this book offers practical strategies to help parents create an enjoyable atmosphere in their family by sending the right messages to their children. Specific exercises give parents a way to take an objective look at how their children are dealing with day-to-day experiences and plan thoughtful reactions.
TEENAGERS & PARENTS: Ten Steps for a Better Relationship
Summit Crossroads Press, 4th ed., 2000
A practical guide to loving guidance for parents of teenagers. The author believes that the main job for the parent of a teen is to be a role model and coach, and the most critical skills are listening and expressing respect. (Earlier edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Nov-Dec 1991.)
100 WAYS TO CALM CRYING
This unique book focuses on the reasons babies cry while offering parents practical advice on soothing baby and coping themselves. Author Pinky McKay advocates strategies to calm and connect with baby, demonstrating a true respect for the child. Along the way, she gives solid information on breastfeeding, sleep, medical causes for crying, playing with baby, and, of course, loving ways to sooth and calm a crying baby.
PARENTING FROM THE HEART
Lothian Books 2001
This Australian book takes a humorous look at pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenting while encouraging the mother to take charge and trust her instincts. Although mainly lighthearted in style, McKay touches on some difficult subjects such as child abuse. The book includes a myriad of personal stories, and some readers may be uncomfortable with occasional use of profanity and the frank nature of some of the stories.
Little, Brown, 1983
Enjoyable addition to your library for your two to four-year-old. Enjoy the priceless humor of the pictures; don’t take the occasional traces of rigidity in the text too seriously. Fun for the kids to look at, as you read the picture-captions to them. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, July-August 1979.)
Mailler, Carolyn Dash ed.
PARENTING FROM THE HEART
An inspiring collection of 79 essays from “From the Heart,” Motherwear’s magazine for nurturing families. Written by mothers who have let their hearts guide them in their parenting choices, the stories attest to the value of mothering through breastfeeding and listening to feelings. Above all, the essays celebrate the pleasure and wonder of being a mother.
HOW YOUR CHILD IS SMART: A Life-Changing Approach to Learning
Focuses on the different learning patterns children have, and how to use these patterns effectively so your child will get the most out of learning. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1994.)
Running Press, 1988
Each chapter begins with a brief description of the average developmental level and suggests ways you and baby can enjoy this time. Includes lullabies, nursery rhymes, water and word play, indoor and outdoor games, art activities, supplies and more. Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1989.)
HANDS AROUND THE WORLD
Games, activities, crafts, and stories from around the world. Geared toward children ages 4-10 years old.
HarperCollins, 3rd ed., 1986
A comprehensive survey of research and opinion documenting the importance of skin stimulation in the development of the human being. Encourages mothers to give in to their natural impulse to cuddle their babies, and emphasizes the importance of breastfeeding.
SHELTER FOR THE SPIRIT
Poetic as well as practical, Shelter for the Spirit is an ode to the central role the home plays in a truly nurturing community. Nineteenth-century industrialization took people out of the home, separated work and family and reduced families to their current “nuclear” size. Moran invites us to discover (or re-discover) the home as more than a place to rest our weary heads at night–a place to live, birth, die, feast, reflect, work, meditate, study, and play. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jul-Aug 1998.)
Neufeld, Gordon and Gabor Mate
HOLD ON TO YOUR KIDS: Helping the Most Important People in a Child’s Life Make a Positive and Listing Difference
Alfred Knopf, 2004
A scholarly piece, Neufeld and Mate focus on a positive attachment between child and parent as the foundation from which parents can regain their natural authority and prevent their children from being lost in the world of peer orientation. This book will empower parents to be for their children what nature intended: the true source of contact, security, and warmth.
THE SCIENTIFICATION OF LOVE
Free Association Books, rev. ed., 2001
Examines the role our physiology, particularly hormones, plays in the development of love between a mother and child, husband and wife, and in other relationships. Odent shows how research supports the importance of natural childbirth and mothering through breastfeeding, and manages to make a difficult subject matter interesting and easy to read. (First edition reviewed in LEAVEN, April-May 2002)
NATURAL FAMILY LIVING
An excellent, comprehensive book for families interested in a more natural lifestyle and approach to child rearing. The book is very supportive of breastfeeding, natural childbirth, and attachment parenting. LLL does not take a stand on some of the topics discussed, such as circumcision and vaccinations.
LOVING MAMA: Essays on Natural Parenting and Motherhood
Hats Off Books, 2004
A lovely collection of heart-warming essays full of conviction for a better way to parent, Loving Mama is written by contemporary mothers who have discovered attachment parenting: what it means, the rewards, and how it works for their families. Sections include information on attachment parenting, birth, breastfeeding, baby wearing, and cosleeping.
GENTLE BABY CARE
Gentle Baby Care can be considered the owner’s manual for a newborn! A comprehensive guide with alphabetically listed topics, Gentle Baby Care is filled with expert medical advice as well as practical tips that will model to new parents desiring the gentle, loving approach to parenting their precious newborn. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Nov-Dec 2004.)
McGraw Hill, 2000
Hidden Messages uses stories to illustrate some of the messages that parents unintentionally give their children. Each story is followed by a discussion showing what the child is hearing from the parent, and then concrete suggestions are offered for making positive changes. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 2005.)
New Harbinger, 1996
For the parent looking for a structured, comprehensive approach to loving guidance. Pantley offers guidelines for enhancing communication skills, a variety of discipline tools, suggestions for self-care, marital and sibling harmony, parental anger and children’s self-esteem.
THE NO-CRY SLEEP SOLUTION
This book provides a gentle approach to sleep training for parents who believe it necessary to modify baby’s sleep habits without resorting to the cry-it-out methods. It offers easy-to-use charts to see where you are in the beginning, what your plan for getting your baby to sleep will be, and measuring your progress. The ideas presented are common sense solutions to a problem that is seen as monumental for many new mothers. LLL does not agree with the cautions against letting baby fall asleep at the breast or holding a sleeping baby or child. (Featured in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 2003).
THE NO-CRY SLEEP SOLUTION FOR TODDLERS AND PRESCHOOLERS
Take positive sleep routines one step further with this follow-up to Elizabeth Pantley’s popular book, The No-Cry Sleep Solution. A guide to help the one to six year old develop healthy sleep habits, the author addresses common concerns such as night waking, graduation from the family bed to independent sleep, nightmares, naptime problems, and much more.
Robins Lane Press, 2000
This easy-to-read book targeted to fathers a d d resses gentle discipline for children through adulthood. Each of the book’s nine chapters center around a “lesson” that applies to both baseball and fathering. The author’s love for children as well as baseball comes through clearly.
Pirie, Alex & Hollis Herman
HOW TO RAISE CHILDREN WITHOUT BREAKING YOUR BACK
IBIS Publications, 1995
The authors present practical tips and helpful exercises to help parents with the physical stress involved in caring for children. From postpartum healing to stretching and strengthening exercises for life-long fitness, this books is a practical guide to improving your overall health.
Portnoy, Sanford & Joan
HOW TO TAKE GREAT TRIPS WITH YOUR KIDS
Harvard Common Press, rev. ed., 1995
Family vacations are fun, but this book can help make them even better. The Portnoys help you cope with the good and the bad-planning, packing, hotel-room clutter, togetherness, and entertaining the kids.
DON’T SHOOT THE DOG
Bantam, rev. ed., 1999
Karen Pryor, author of Nursing Your Baby, applies the principles of positive reinforcement to humans, as well as dogs, cats, and dolphins. The result is a method of shaping behavior that works on everyone from whining children and lazy teenagers to sloppy spouses and cats who sit on the furniture. It can even help you change your own bad habits. (First edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1986.)
MOTHER & CHILD: Visions of Parenting from Indigenous Cultures
Inner Traditions International, 1997
Intimate and poignant photographs of mothers and children from indigenous cultures around the world illustrate a deep connection with the natural environment and the primal nature of mother-child bond Reynolds illustrates each of life passages from birth to grandparenting with a consistent message of support for honoring the natural way of caring for children which includes breastfeeding and mother-baby togetherness.
HOW TO RAISE A FAMILY AND A CAREER UNDER ONE ROOF: A Parent’s Guide to Home Business
Highlights the positive impact self-employment has on one’s children, spouse, and the community at large. Promotes the home-business lifestyle as a healthy balance for the entire family. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 1998.)
DAYCARE DECEPTION: What the Childcare Establishment Isn’t Telling Us
Encounter Books, 2003
A shocking discussion based upon data from over 30 years of research on the effects of children who are involved in institutional or group daycare settings. This book demonstrates an objective look at the politics behind daycare and a critical review of what the research is really saying.
NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION: A Language of Compassion
PuddleDancer, rev. ed., 2003
Nonviolent Communication focuses on “the lost language of humankind,” advocating a principle-based approach to communication. The author guides readers through the identification and expression of feelings and needs in order to create a more harmonious, enriching environment. A different exercise is provided with every chapter. The book includes numerous examples drawn from family life and workshops around the world. (Reviewed NEW BEGINNINGS, May-June 2003; Reviewed in LEAVEN, Oct-Nov 2004.)
RAISING CHILDREN COMPASSIONATELY: PARENTING THE NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION WAY
Center for Nonviolent Communication, 2002
This useful booklet applies the principles of Nonviolent Communication specifically to the parent-child relationship. Family members keep each other’s needs in mind and try not to define things in terms of “right” and “wrong.”
LOVING EACH ONE BEST
Practical and positive guide to handling sibling interactions. Includes stories, strategies, and resources to support parents in a loving approach to discipline and communication. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jan-Feb 1999.)
LOVING WITHOUT SPOILING AND 100 OTHER TIMELESS TIPS FOR RAISING TERRIFIC KIDS
Contemporary Books, 2003
Loving Without Spoiling offers positive answers to a number of age-old challenges for parents of toddlers to teens. The issues discussed within the 100 mini “how-to” chapters include whining, temper tantrums in public, creating morning routines that involve less stress, and encouraging honesty. The author writes in an easy-to-read-style and includes useful anecdotes to help parents raise well-mannered children without being restrictive or smothering their spirit. Samalin advocates behavior toward children that is positive, respectful, and loving while maintaining a focus on parental firmness, authority, and limit setting.
LOVING YOUR CHILD IS NOT ENOUGH
Penguin, rev. ed., 1998
An inspiring book on positive discipline. Illustrates the importance of being sensitive to a child’s feelings. Sample dialogue illustrates what to avoid, what to remember, and how to handle conflicts.
CONFESSIONS OF AN ORGANIZED HOMEMAKER
Betterway Books, rev. ed. 1994
Revised and updated, this book offers homemakers ideas for becoming more organized while focusing on the importance of spending time as a family and not letting house-cleaning get in the way. Includes ideas on time-management, storage alternatives, meal planning, and motivation. (Earlier edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Sept-Oct 1992.)
Sears, Martha and William
TWENTY-FIVE THINGS EVERY NEW MOTHER SHOULD KNOW
Harvard Common Press, rev. ed., 2005
From giving birth to breastfeeding to meeting baby’s needs, this book reinforces a mother’s confidence by reassuring her that she is the expert on her baby. Helps a brand-new mother understand her new role by encouraging her to respond intuitively to her baby.
Sears, William & Martha Sears
THE ATTACHMENT PARENTING BOOK
Little Brown, 2001
Written by the pediatric experts who coined the phrase “attachment parenting,” this inspirational book provides information to help parents understand their children and enjoy parenting. Explains the benefits of attachment parenting and breastfeeding; provides tips on bonding for mothers, fathers, and in special situations; and dispels many of the myths involved with attachment parenting. Also discusses baby wearing, cosleeping, mother burnout, and baby training. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, July-Aug 2002.)
Sears, William & Martha
THE BABY BOOK: Everything You Need to Know about Your Baby from Birth to Age Two
Little, Brown, rev. ed. 2003
This comprehensive guide to the first two years emphasizes a baby’s basic needs and helps new parents to meet those needs through the attachment style of parenting.
BECOMING A FATHER
LLLI, rev. ed., 2003
Addresses the joys and problems of parenthood from the male perspective–everything from how to hold a tiny baby to sibling rivalry and organized sports. Dr. Sears, a pediatrician and father, writes from personal experience and promises that becoming a father will bring rich rewards. (First edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS Nov-Dec 1985.)
Sears, William & Martha
THE DISCIPLINE BOOK: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Better Behaved Child from Birth To Age Ten
Little, Brown, 1995
Explores a wide variety of parenting options and helps parents decide which type of parenting philosophy will work best for their family. It emphasizes the importance of attachment parenting.
Sears, William and Martha
THE FUSSY BABY
LLLI, rev. ed, 2002
This revised edition contains new information on colic, reflux, and the challenges of b reastfeeding a fussy baby. High need babies demand extra patience from parents, but according to Dr. Sears, the extra effort pays off. (Second edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Jul-Aug 2002.)
Sears, William and Martha
THE FUSSY BABY BOOK
Little Brown, 1996
Once again, the Sears’ offer parent- and pediatrician-tested techniques to empower parents to cope with and ultimately enjoy their fussy babies and high need children. Expands on the ideas presented in the LLLI-published book, The Fussy Baby. Survival strategies for everything from nighttime nursing to mother burnout! Formerly titled Parenting the Fussy Baby and High Need Child.
From birth to one year, Dr. Sears charts the development of a tiny newborn into a curious toddler. Over 150 black and white photos and 16 pages of color photos illustrate the growth of motor, language, social, and cognitive skills. Dr. Sears, an advocate of attachment parenting, explains how parents can enhance their baby’s development by their responsiveness. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, May-June 1988.)
Sears, William & Martha
HOW TO GET YOUR BABY TO SLEEP
Little Brown, 2001
A great addition to a new parent’s library. Short and written in an accessible question and answer format, nighttime parenting issues are discussed with the compassion and common sense typical of the Sears’. Topics include choosing the right place for baby to sleep, getting a baby back to sleep, why babies shouldn’t have to “cry it out,” and how to reduce the liklihood of SIDS. The many tips for fathers will help make nighttime parenting a family affair.
LLLI, 2nd ed. 1999
Dr. Sears explains how babies sleep differently than adults, how sharing sleep can help the whole family sleep better, and encourages parents to have confidence in the own intuition and to be responsive to their babies and young children at night. The revised edition includes the latest research on how sharing sleep may reduce SIDS risk, offers tips on safe sleeping-sharing, and includes an update on the benefits of breastfeeding at night, as well advice on common nighttime dilemmas. Available in English, French, German, and Italian. (First edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, May-June 1985; Second edition reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS Jan-Feb 2003.)
Sears, William & Martha with Elizabeth Pantley
THE SUCCESSFUL CHILD: What Parents Can Do to Help Kids Turn Out Well
Little Brown, 2002
The Sears’ use their experience and common sense philosophy of parenting to explore the hurdles of raising the older child, from toddler to teenager, in today’s society. For those who have practiced attachment parenting with their babies, this book helps continue the process as the child grows. A clear reflection of the authors’ cultural and spiritual values, The Successful Child identifies the essential tools the Sears’ believe every child needs to succeed, including empathy, kindness, self-esteem, having a sense of humor, healthy relationships, and more. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS July-Aug 2003.)
RAISING A THINKING CHILD: Help Your Young Child to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others
Pocket Books, 1996
Straightforward approach to teaching children to become independent, competent individuals, who are able to think for themselves, solve problems, and deal effectively with social situations. Using the “I Can Problem Solve” (ICPS) method, parents can help their children learn decision-making skills. Exceptionally readable, this book is especially valuable for its many simple and clear exercises and sensitivity to young children’s (4-7) thoughts and feelings.
MORE GAMES TO PLAY WITH TODDLERS Gryphon House, 1996
Fun and educational games and activities to keep parents and toddlers happy. Games includes blocks, balls, colors and shapes, language and rhyme, quiet, running and jumping, singing, social and specific educational skills. The author suggests 12-24 months as appropriate ages for these games, but they could easily be used by preschoolers as well.
125 BRAIN GAMES FOR BABIES
Gryphon House, 1999
The best way to enhance your baby’s brain development is to meet his needs for touch, closeness, and interaction. Silberg takes parents step-by-step through 125 activities for the first 12 months. Each activity includes a summary of pertinent “brain research.” LLLI regrets that breastfeeding is not discussed.
NO GREATER LOVE, BEING AN EXTRAORDINARY MOM
St. Martin’s, 1999
An inspirational celebration of motherhood through vignettes, exquisite photography, problem-solving questions and quotations. The author’s religious faith is reflected in the text.
OUR BABIES, OURSELVES: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent
Why do so many babies in the US sleep in cribs? How do !Kung San babies nurse on average every 3 minutes? Why are Gusil babies seldom praised? Small draws on the new science of ethnopediatrics to examine the intersection of culture and biology and their joint influence on parenting. After a brief tour of parenting styles around the world, Small looks at infants’ biological needs and discusses how we can best meet those needs both within and across cultures. Specific parenting topics include nighttime parenting, fussiness, and breastfeeding. The author makes strong statements about the risks of breastfeeding if a mother is HIV positive which are not supported by current research since there are many unknown factors involved in maternal-infant transmission of HIV. (Reviewed in LEAVEN, April-May, 1999.)
THE BIRTH OF A MOTHER
Basic Books, 1998
Motherhood alters a woman’s mental landscape, changing the way she perceives her partner, the world around her, and even herself. Stern, a psychiatrist, charts the psychological transformation of motherhood with revealing case studies and personal observations. A sensitive section addresses the special impact of premature or handicapped babies. Women, who find the transition to motherhood to be a difficult period of self redefinition will be reassured by Stern’s supportive and thoroughly researched approach.
Sweet, Bill and Win
LIVING JOYFULLY WITH CHILDREN
An easy-to-read book, in essay format which encourages families to focus on principles rather than rules and regulations. By identifying important values and structuring family life around these ideals, parents can create a positive family situations where each individual is respected for their True Self. “Loving Guidance” with a New Age flavor.
DISCIPLINE FOR LIFE
Combines principles and “life lessons” with concrete practical examples for parents and teachers who wish to solve behavioral problems while honoring children. Her goal is teach children to become self-disciplined and competent adults.
I LOVE MY LIFE: A Mom’s Guide to Working at Home
Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, 2003
With strong emphasis on working from home with children, I Love My Life addresses all aspects of starting a home-based business in order to have more flexibility to spend time with family. From discovering your personal passion to marketing your business to balancing family with working at home, I Love My Life provides structure, encouragement, and inspiration for those wishing to return to home for employment or for those wishing to add a second income to the household. The author focuses on utilizing the internet for marketing the business or for the business itself. An extensive resource section is included for additional reading.
THE KIDS MULTICULTURAL ART BOOK
Introduces children to other cultures through easy and fun creative activities.
THE FAMILY BED
Avery, 2nd ed. 1987
Discusses pros and cons of children sleeping with their parents and/or siblings. Historical perspectives, as well as personal experiences, provide very helpful reading for parents who worry about sleep problems. (First edition reviewed in LLL News, and LEAVEN, May-June 1976.)
Tieger Paul, and Barbara Barron-Tieger
NURTURE BY NATURE: Understand Your Child’s Personality Type–and Become a Better Parent
Little Brown, 1997
The authors draw on their extensive knowledge of Myers-Briggs Personality Types to show parents how they can learn more about their children’s unique personalities. In-depth descriptions of the 16 Myers-Briggs Types are provided, along with many real-life family stories. An excellent approach for the parents of preschool and school-aged children who think, “It was so much easier when they were nursing–now what?”
YOU AND YOUR NEWBORN BABY
Harvard Common Press, 1993
An accurate, readable description of life with a newborn baby, including the challenges and rewards, as it affects baby, mother and family. Although bottle-feeding is discussed, the author promotes breastfeeding and child-centered parenting.
HEY! LISTEN TO THIS!
The author of The New Read-Aloud Handbook brings together forty-eight new read-aloud stories that parents and teachers can share with children ages five through nine. From school days to animal tales, this book is full of stimulating stories that help children understand the world they live in or enter one that is full of surprises.
BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOUR CHILD AND YOURSELF
Quality Parenting, 1999
A self-help parenting book based on the author’s Quality Parenting Program which teaches that different aspects of our personalities are active at different times. By recognizing these changes within ourselves, parents can move toward a more centered state and create an environment that brings out their own and their children’s best behavior. Val-Essen helps us recognize that parenting skills alone are not enough. Changes in attitude are also needed in order to create a family based on mutual respect. (Reviewed in NEW BEGINNINGS, Nov-Dec 2000.)
PARENTING: Are We Having Fun Yet?
CMS Communications, 1998
An easy-to-read short primer for helping children (2-18) learn accountability in a way that promotes self-esteem and respect. In a conversational tone, Wenc offers tools to get parents out of the yelling cycle, encourages the use of natural and logical consequences, and treats other common loving guidance issues.
WIN THE WHINING WAR & OTHER SKIRMISHES: A Family Peace Plan
Perspective Publishing, 1991
With a snappy style and clear presentation, this book seeks to reduce family conflict by helping parents distinguish children’s behavior that they like, dislike, and find intolerable. Offers simple techniques to increase positive behavior and decrease negative behavior.
Young, Pam & Peggy Jones
SIDETRACKED HOME EXECUTIVES
Warner Books, rev. ed., 2001
A witty humorous account of two sisters’ attempts to organize their homes and lives. The result is a comprehensive, flexible system adaptable even for the mother of a new baby. The authors point out that no system can work unless it puts “people first.” (First edition reviewed in LEAVEN Nov-Dec 1982.)